Serendipitous Community Connections

For me, there's always been a sense of belonging within the LGBTQIA+ community. Back in the 80s, as a teenage boy in homophobic Perth, walking through the doors of the Red Lion and Connections was like stepping into safe havens. Yet, outside those walls, homosexuality was still considered a criminal offense, and bigotry and discrimination were ever-present. In those days, being "out" took immense courage – something I didn't possess at the time. My own journey to self-acceptance hasn't been easy. Growing up in different times has meant grappling with internalized homophobia and there have been challenges. But today, I am comfortable as an imperfect work in progress – what's important is that I've found my tribe wherever they may be in the world, and that feels safe.

 Volunteering in a foreign country can amplify these feelings of loneliness and isolation. Naturally, when I found out that Queer Voices of Bhutan were hosting an IDAHOBIT Day event in Thimphu, I wanted to attend. It was a chance to show support but also to reconnect with my Rainbow community, a piece of home I was missing dearly.

 We understand those feelings of isolation within the LGBTQIA+ community have persisted for generations, alongside heteronormative society. While not everyone feels alone at every moment, the sense of being an outsider based on sexual orientation or gender identity is sadly familiar to many.

 As a visitor to Bhutan, I acknowledge it's not my place to comment on the struggles faced by the LGBTQIA+ community here. Yet, it was empowering to hear panelists discuss the intersectionality of their work with Bhutanese culture and what is the essence of being an ally.

 At the event, I found myself in awe of the younger leaders who created a space where everyone felt safe and included. It was pure magic to witness. I watched a Bhutanese transwoman perform a breathtaking dance, allowing herself to use the dance to transform into something truly beautiful. I met a remarkable an adorable couple who shared their love and pineapples and tantric sex tips that I can't wait to try. And I connected with leaders of the Bhutanese Queer community, witnessing their courage and unity.

 There in a hotel in Thimphu on IDAHOBIT Day, I was once again reminded of the power of serendipity. The Rainbow community welcomed me as a "Chillip" – a white foreigner in Bhutan – but also as someone who belongs, a part of the community.

 Embracing serendipity in our travels opens us up to experiences we never could have planned for. Attending this event was like stumbling upon a hidden treasure, adding wonder and excitement to my journey. These unexpected encounters broaden our perspectives, challenging our preconceived notions and enriching our understanding of the world.

 So let's embrace the power of serendipity in our travels – it's where true magic happens.