Love’s Visa: Rainbow Reflections
May 17 marks the International Day Against Homophobia, Biphobia, Interphobia, and Transphobia, or IDAHOBIT Day. In 2024, one might hope such a day would no longer be necessary. Yet, we find ourselves in a time where our community faces challenges from various quarters, including both the far right and the far left.
The rights our LGBTI elders fought for now seem precarious as we navigate uncharted waters, encountering unexpected decisions that challenge our preconceived notions and beliefs, such as local councils banning children’s books in libraries (thankfully reversing the decision after community backlash).
Amidst this backdrop, I wish to share a personal story that underscores the power of perseverance and advocacy in fostering positive change.
For those unfamiliar, Bhutan decriminalised homosexuality in 2021. During my time here in 2024, I’ve found the people to be incredibly accepting of my sexuality and welcoming of my husband and our same sex marriage.
So last year, during the process of obtaining visas for my stay in Bhutan, I encountered a hurdle. AVI informed me that my husband could not obtain a dependent visa due to Bhutan not allowing same-sex marriage. Being a bit sassy, my response was along the lines of ‘Been there, done that, we are not going to Bhutan to do it again!’
Refusing to accept this interpretation as the final word, I delved into the Bhutanese Government's guidelines for dependent visas. To my delight, no gendered language was used for spouses, and the primary criterion was the provision of a marriage certificate – something my husband and I could provide.
Determined to explore every avenue, I then contacted the Bhutan Embassy in Canberra with my query. Their response was encouraging; while they couldn't provide an immediate answer, they were willing to relay my question to the Government in Bhutan for clarification. After a series of discussions, the request reached the Attorney General, who, upon interpreting Bhutanese law, determined that my husband and I were indeed eligible for a dependent visa. Something we believe made us one of the first same-sex couples in the world to receive such a visa for Bhutan.
This experience underscores that positive change isn't always sparked by protests or demonstrations; sometimes, it emerges from a simple question posed to the right people, igniting thought and consideration.
As we commemorate IDAHOBIT Day, let us recommit ourselves to combat discrimination and promote equality for all by challenging the status quo, advocating for equality, and celebrating the diversity that enriches our world.
